Mother Mary’s Advice

January 18, 2019

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In the account of the Cana wedding feast, Mary gives the best advice anyone has ever given. These are Mary’s words to the wise: “Do whatever he [Jesus] tells you” (Jn 2:5). Another way to say this would be, “Obey him all the time.” Mary initially addressed these words to the servers, but they apply to all of us.

It is important to consider the source. Who gave the advice, and is the advice worth following? Mary is the Seat of Wisdom. She was overshadowed by the Holy Spirit (Lk 1:25). She is filled with knowledge and insight, knows the truth, and is a fountain of wisdom. She is without sin, full of grace, and the Lord is with her (see Lk 1:28), her heart is pure love, and she wants nothing but the best for us. Mary would never point us in the wrong direction or recommend something that would be harmful to ourselves or anyone else.

The wedding at Cana

The Cana Wedding Feast, St. Louis King of France, St. Paul, MN

Moreover, Mary is the Mother of Good Counsel. One of Mary’s most important roles is to give instructions and directions, guidance and recommendations. She is the greatest of all spiritual directors, she always gives sage advice, and she helps us to do the right thing.

Mary knew her son Jesus better than anyone else. She had experienced his personal holiness, the brilliance of his thinking, and his power to do amazing things. She knew the depth of his love and compassion for others, and his concern for their well-being. Mary knew that her son knows best, that his instructions provide the best plan for how to proceed and the best solution to the problem at hand. Sometimes his instructions led to a miraculous outcome. So when a problem situation developed during the latter portion of the wedding celebration, Mary delivered her wise counsel: “Do whatever he tells you” (Jn 2:5). Obey him.

Jesus was obedient himself. In fact, he is the model of perfect obedience, which is reason for us to heed Mary’s advice and obey her son. Initially Jesus was obedient to Mary and Joseph as a child (Lk 2:51), but ultimately he was obedient to his Father as he said during his agony, “not my will but yours be done” (Lk 22:42). Jesus became “obedient to death, even death on a cross” (Phil 2:8). Obedience was Jesus’ test of Sonship, and obedience is our test of discipleship.

Obedience is hard for us. We want to make our own choices. We want to do things our way. We do not want anyone else telling us what to do or bossing us around. Obedience is one of the greatest challenges of the spiritual life, to submit our will to God’s will, to do – not what we want – but what God wants, to do whatever Jesus tells us. And because Jesus is all good, his instructions are completely reliable and give us the right way to think and act.

Mary has given us good advice, and we can follow her example and give good advice to others. It can flow from one spouse to another, parent to child, teacher to student, friend to friend, or counselor to counselee: “Do whatever he tells you” (Jn 2:5). It is the best possible advice, and when we do what Jesus tells us, we will always be on the right road, always be headed in the right direction, on the path that leads to salvation and a share in Jesus’ eternal glory.

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About Father Michael Van Sloun

Father Michael A. Van Sloun is the pastor of Saint Bartholomew of Wayzata, MN. Ministerial interests include weekly Bible study, articles on theological topics, religious photography, retreats on Cross spirituality, and pilgrimages to the Holy Land, Italy, Greece and Turkey.

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