Archive | July, 2018

The Unity Candle

July 10, 2018


The Unity Candle The Unity Candle is a three-candle display, all white in color, one larger pillar candle in the center, flanked by two smaller taper candles, one on each side. Ordinarily they are placed on a Unity Candle stand or a table draped with a cloth. The display is never placed on the altar. The placement may be somewhere in the sanctuary that does not obstruct the view of the altar, pulpit, presider’s chair, or the couple, or may be placed outside but near the sanctuary.

The ceremonial lighting of the Unity Candle is not a part of The Order of Celebrating Matrimony in the Catholic Church. It is not allowed in some dioceses and parishes because it is not included in the ritual, or because those present for the exchange of vows witness the complete Sacrament of Marriage, the sacrament is powerful and stands fully on its own, a symbol is anticlimactic following the real thing, and a symbol does not supplement or augment it.

In many dioceses and parishes, the Unity Candle ceremony is permitted. It is a relatively new tradition that has much sentimental value. It provides the couple an opportunity to act together immediately. The ceremony is elegant, beautiful, and a memorable moment.

When the Unity Candle ceremony is celebrated, it comes after the blessing and giving of rings and before the Universal Prayer or the Prayers of the Faithful. The taper candles usually are lit before the liturgy, often by the mothers, but also possibly by relatives or friends, or if no one is designated, by the sacristan, or the taper candles are lit as the first part of the ceremony itself. Then the bride and groom each take a lit taper candle, and together simultaneously light the pillar candle. The taper candles are returned to their holders and usually left burning. The larger center candle is a symbol that is interpreted in a number of different ways.

The Married Couple. The usual understanding is that one taper candle represents the bride, the other represents the groom, and that the pillar candle represents the bride and groom joined together as a married couple. While each retains their individuality, represented by the taper candles that continue to burn, “they are no longer two but one flesh” (Mk 10:8).

Jesus. The lighted pillar candle represents Jesus who is the light of the world (Jn 8:12). When the bride and groom light the pillar candle, they declare that Jesus is the center of their marriage, that they are joined together by him, that the sacramental grace that he supplies will sustain them and hold them together, and that they will individually and jointly follow his light.

The Sacrament of Marriage. The taper candles represent the baptismal candles of the bride and groom, as well as their faith in Jesus and their commitments to live their lives as his disciples. Baptism is the first Sacrament of Initiation. Then after the reception of Eucharist and Confirmation and the completion of the Sacraments of Initiation, the bride and groom indicate as they light the pillar candle that they intend to live out their baptismal faith as adults in the Sacrament of Marriage, their Sacrament of Commitment.

A New Family. The taper candles represent the immediate families of the bride and groom, their parents and siblings, and from their two families of origin, the pillar candle represents the new family that has begun with their marriage.

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The Wedding Rings

July 2, 2018


Wedding RingsA Symbol of the Sacrament of Marriage

The Wedding Rings. In the rite for The Order of Celebrating Matrimony, the exchange of consent or wedding vows is first, followed by the blessing and giving of rings. The sacrament takes place with the exchange and reception of consent. The rings add beauty, represent fidelity, and signify the permanence of the union of the husband and wife. Wedding rings are the most common symbol of the Sacrament of Marriage in Christian artwork, and Mary and Joseph are frequently depicted exchanging them before a priest in a synagogue or the Temple.

The Ring Finger. After the thumb, the ring is worn on the third finger of the left hand. In prescientific times before advances in medical science and anatomy, it was commonly believed that there was a nerve or blood vessel that ran directly from the ring finger to the heart, the symbolic seat of love (Klein, P., Catholic Source Book, 425).

Circular Shape. A wedding ring is a circle without beginning or end. It goes around and never stops, thus represents something that is everlasting, eternal, or timeless. The roundness of the wedding ring means that the marriage covenant is a lifelong promise, unceasing, and continues unbroken and uninterrupted, for the rest of one’s life. It is a love that never ends (1 Cor 13:8a).

Hollow Interior. A wedding ring has an open center which can be interpreted to represent the inside of a pipe or a piece of conduit. As liquid flows through a pipe or electricity flows through wires inside a section of conduit, so a steady stream of love flows through the ring from one spouse to another. It is a channel for patience, kindness, humility, politeness, self-control, forgiveness, generosity, truthfulness, endurance, trust (1 Cor 13:4-7), compassion and gentleness (Col 3:12-13).

Tight fit. The ring is worn snuggly around the finger so it will remain in place and not slip off. It is so tight that is presses against the skin and bone and cannot slide over the knuckle by itself. The tightness represents that the husband and wife are bound tightly to each other. The pressing or restrictive nature of the tight fit also symbolizes chaste love, an intimate love that they share exclusively with each other and no one else.

Wedding Chasuble with interlocking wedding ringsInterlocking rings. One of the most common symbols of the Sacrament of Marriage is a pair of rings that are linked together with one ring intertwined with the other. It serves as a sign that the husband and wife are inseparably joined. Sometimes a cross is placed between the rings which signifies that Jesus is the center and binding force of a Christian marriage, and that they will carry their crosses together. Occasionally two whites candles are also added, one within each ring, which represent their baptismal faith which will serve as the foundation of their marriage. It also indicates their intention to complete their Sacraments of Initiation with marriage, a Sacrament of Commitment, and how their joint membership in the Body of Christ will serve as a powerful unifying force in their life together.

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